Genital armour is a common experience in most bodies. It’s a form of self-protection - your body’s organic response to guard itself -  and can lead to desensitization, discomfort, tension, and numbness, until the armour is released from the tissues and fascia of the pelvis, restoring sensitivity, aliveness, and your body’s organic healthy arousal & pleasure response.  

Below are recommendations to best prepare your body, mind, and Spirit to invite a safe, sacred and loving experience of intimacy with yourself and your genitalia. 

Preparing for a Guided Self-Dearmouring Experience:

* Music - that connects with your sensual nature

* Privacy - uninterrupted for the next hour or so

* Wand - in case your body desires it

* Organic coconut oil or favorite lube - at the ready

* Water or tea - for hydration

* Blanket & pillow - for comfort

* Warmth in room - for a receptive body

* Empty bladder - no distractions

PRINCIPLES: 

* INTENTION : Your clear intention will be the compass guiding your journey - whether this involves releasing armour or inviting pleasure, the same sequence can elicit different experiences based on your intentions. 

* BREATH : Deep Full Breathing into the point of contact to charge the area with energy, followed by an exhale which gives voice to what the sensations want to express via sounding, whilst allowing your body to move as it desires is key.

* COMPLETING INTERRUPTED MOVEMENTS, SOUNDS AND EMOTIONS releases stuck energies keeping the armour in place from events and experiences that caused the body to guard itself.  We are completing the expression of the body via sounding, expressing emotions and movement when we dearmour. 

* SEEING with your Hands and with your Touch :  When touching your genitalia, give your full focus to seeing and sensing with your hands, fingers and touch.  And likewise,

* AWAKEN THE TOUCH RECEPTORS OF YOUR GENITALIA : Explore feeling with the TOUCH RECEPTORS of your genitalia - feeling your fingers and hand with the touch receptors of your vulva, vagina and cervix, or penile head, shaft, testicles and perineum - not just touching your genitalia with the touch receptors of your fingers.  This can turn on the sensory receptors of your genitalia as you wake up its tissue sensitivity.

* TEMPLE REVERENCE : Consider that entering this most sacred part of your body is akin to entering a Holy Temple or Shrine.  What if we entered and explored our Genitalia in the ways we explore a Holy Site on a sacred land - with the utmost respect, awe, and reverence. 

* NEVER FORCE ANYTHING:  If the genitalia is not a clear “yes,” or if it’s a “maybe” or “I don’t know,” - slow down and take your time attuning to its truth.  Armour forms when an outer agenda is imposed onto the body’s authentic desire.  We want to reverse this process by placing the body in the driver’s seat of its experiences.  Your yoni or lingam may need evidence that you can be patient in truly honoring its pace and desires, unlike the other times that led to it armoring up.  Respect the body’s desire to pause, slow down, or stop. 

* DEARMOURING CAN FEEL LIKE: Butter melting, or a release of coldness or heat, or tingling electricity, or the new pulsing of fresh blood and aliveness, or an emotional release.  It can be quiet or loud, dramatic or calm, demanding or peaceful - invite whatever ways feel good for your body to release and complete any previously blocked expressions with full respect and gratitude for its wisdom in having protected you, and also now knowing how to release and leave it in the past. 

* DOWN-REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM BEFORE DEARMOURING : Whatever works for you - dancing to your favorite music, meditation, a cup of warm tea, a walk in nature… etc. 

KEYS: 

* Consider using the fingers and touch of both hands to explore different sensate focus and angles.  The more you use both hands, the better sensate focus you will develop for the different stimuli you will provide.  We are creating new sensory pathways. 

* If another part of your body - like your throat, breast or chest is wanting touch whilst the genitalia is being dearmored, move your free hand to where your body wants.  Sometimes, genital armour may be interconnected with another part of the body and touch with both hands are needed to connect both points for the armour release.

* Positioning of your body:  feel free to move around to suit a position that feels good to your body.  For example, laying back can be comfortable for the vulva, but this will make your internal canal long for cervical contact.  To reach the back of the vaginal canal manually, consider sitting on your knees for freer movement and a better angle or on one knee with the other leg’s foot flat on the floor and leaning forward.  You can also try being on both knees with your head on a pillow on the ground and your butt in the air.  Experiment with what positions give you manual access whilst keeping your body relaxed and open. 

* Less is more:  do not apply pressure with force or effort.  Gentle and slow is the way to go. 

* When dearmouring the clitoral glans, vaginal opening & internal walls and cervix - or the shaft of the penis, frenulum or corona - using a clock image and noting what points of armour are where on the clock can make it easy to remember where to return to in future sessions.  Some armour may involve several sessions to release and this way you will know to return to "3 o’clock" or "7:30"... 

* Micro-needling with a finger on the cervix can be an effective way to dearmour the outer tissue of the cervix via tiny movements with the tip of a finger : “Dotting” or “micro-needling” in addition to strokes and being present with or feeling the finger pad with the cervical touch receptors.